I recently celebrated my 58th birthday, a reminder of another year gone by, perhaps another year wiser, or at least I would like to think so. At this point in my life, I am truly grateful for the things that matter most: faith in God, family, friends, and good health. These gifts become even more meaningful and relevant with the passage of time, yet there are also still other “birthday wishes” to be realized…Birthdays present an excellent opportunity to take stock of the past year and to have a game plan for the new year ahead. You think you that you have all the time in the world to execute your plan, yet, that is not necessarily so…Life can change in an instant! Each of us have seen this happen or have experienced it personally. At the very least, I know that I have lived more than half of my life already and the time has sure gone by quickly! There is still so much to experience!
Isn’t it funny how you feel exactly the same on the inside, (hence the infamous “young at heart”), yet, your body gives you direct ( or sometimes subtle) cues over time that it is changing, slowing down, etc.? Of course, that’s the part of the life cycle that we don’t like so much, especially because of our special children . We want to remain strong in body and mind for their sake, as well as our own. It is the prayer of every special parent that I know, including mine, and for very good reason: I shudder to think about the alternative…I try to focus on what I can change about myself for the better and try to do that-this is the best self care there is! I can really only control myself and am responsible for my own choices. When I take care of myself, I am in the best position to take care of Brian. Self care is the best gift I can give to both of us, but of course life’s stressors can make this very difficult sometimes. So often, self care has to be a conscious choice and priority in order for it to happen. If we parents choose to ignore our needs, sooner or later we will pay a very dear price for neglecting ourselves. This is where realizing our own “birthday wishes” can help us achieve this goal and so much more! Here are my “birthday wishes” for my “new year”:
1. I wish to have good health and a sound mind.
2. I wish to laugh way more this year- may I continue to cultivate a sense of humor, especially during those challenging times when it comes in very handy!
3. I wish to experience peace in all circumstances, especially those situations that I can’t control.
4. I wish to spend more quality time with family, friends, and other loved ones. In the end, this is what really matters, but I want to do this more in the present moments.
5. I wish to celebrate every success, milestone, or accolade with joy, applause, appreciation, and chocolate! 🍫
6. I wish to encourage others with my words and actions when opportunities arise. All of us can benefit from love, understanding, and support.
7. I wish to take naps without guilt.
8. I wish to learn something brand new this year, though I haven’t figured out exactly what this is yet…
9. I wish to dream big and without fear about the future.
10. I wish to remove toxic situations and/or people who threaten to steal my joy.
11. I wish to be more like Brian: to have his child-like faith, to have the ability to live more in the present moment, and to appreciate the simple things in life with genuine delight.
12. I wish to always have new wishes to hope for and attain!
This concludes this brief “all about me” blog, and why not?! After all, birthdays come only once a year- aren’t each one of us worthy of accolades and good wishes on our special day? I certainly think so! It is a great reminder of who we are, have far we have come, and where we plan to go moving forward, the stuff that hopes and big dreams are made of. Cheers to a new year!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Until next time, thanks for reading! 😊